Classes from previous years

 

 

Kevin and katie

Following the Leader

Pursuing submission, slavery, or some other follower role, can be a challenging journey.   It can be emotionally, physically and mentally demanding.   In this class, katie (International Power Exchange 2017) shares much of her personal story of becoming Kevin’s slave – the lessons learned, the tools built, the serenity found.  However, beyond being merely anecdotal and narrative, this class distills more than sixteen years of experience and exposure down to insights and wisdom that could help you find deeper fulfillment and satisfaction.  This class also has value for those in the Leader role, because it is an exceptional peak inside the mind and growth of a slave. 

Power Exchange Scenes: How to Add Energy and Intensity to Your Play

This workshop is about the Power Exchange elements that can be nurtured and highlighted during your regular “play” sessions. Kevin and katie help you tune-in to the Power Exchange opportunities and learn to enhance the connection within your own play style. Those just beginning to add Power Exchange to their scenes will get great “starter” ideas. There will also be techniques that are more complex and can take years to build. This is a workshop with many opportunities to do hands on practice with a partner, but those without a partner are encouraged to also attend and participate.

Sir Luke and His victor

Power Exchange Primer

What makes a relationship a ‘power exchange’ dynamic and what types of power exchange dynamics are out there? Dominant/submissive, Trainer/pup, Mommy/boy, to name a few among an infinite number of dynamics and roles. In this presentation, Sir Luke and his victor will discuss some of the many types of power dynamics that exist. Expect to learn ways to enliven your existing dynamic(s), no matter what box (or boxes) you check off when defining your roles. They will also provide participants with an overview of what M/s means to them.

If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t know what boxes to check off, where you fit in, or what words to describe what you share with your special someone(s), you are welcome to explore, learn, and find liberation among the group.

Power of Choice

When new relationships develop, we’re swept up into an emotional roller coaster. These highs and lows can become the fuel for great long-term relationships, but what do we do when that roller coaster levels off over years? In this class, we’ll discuss how anticipation can become complacent expectations and how our active, conscious choices can rejuvenate our long burning fires for our partners. We’ll cover everything from the internal choices we make as s-types that affect how we navigate repetition, to choices we make as D-types that affect all parties, and even the big choices like surrender, loss of power, and transitioning through phases of a growing dynamic.

Handling the Bacon Once It’s Home: Butler Books & Household Management

Maintaining a house is not a task to be taken lightly; there are schedules to manage, supplies to have on hand, and an endless cycle of chores that often need repeating. What are ways that we can make this process run smoothly? In this class, we’ll discuss both traditional and nontraditional ways to organize life in general and keep the power exchange going even during the non-sexy times.


mocha

Single Power: Developing and Sustaining the Power Exchange Dynamic as a Single

Join mocha in this class covering tips and tricks for fulfilling your Power Exchange needs. Although this class is taught from a single s-type perspective, D-types can employ the same concepts from their side of the slash. We will also discuss service, mindfulness, and rituals.

Joe and mona

How to Keep Your Dynamic on Track When the Dominant Becomes the Caregiver

Joe and mona will share their experience and challenges on how they have kept their M/s dynamic alive and well while undergoing the trials and tribulations of the dominant partner having to care for the submissive partner and the roll reversals that had to take place.  Through their experience they hope to give some tips and tools that you can use for your own dynamic.

Kacie Haven (Cunningham)

Rebuilding Trust (in 7 Very Difficult Steps)

In just about every relationship, the underlying foundation of trust will at some point become compromised, whether this is by reason of a single event or a culmination of many smaller things. Complete with a handout of the 7 steps and personal examples, this class takes a look at rebuilding damaged trust within a power exchange dynamic so that both/all affected parties can move on after something which has damaged that trust. Easily my most popular class, it’s typically standing-room only, so come early!

Slave talk

Many times, little letters struggle to effectively communicate with their dominants, falling into old habits of passive-aggression in an attempt to get a point across while remaining ‘submissive’. This class teaches concrete methods of communication to both big and little letters to avoid passive-aggressive bullshit while still communicating openly, honestly, and effectively. Topics will include specific things for little-letters to do (and avoid!) and ways for the big-letter to recognize when passive-aggression is happening and how to help the little letter communicate more appropriately without compromising dominance.  


Dan and dawn

Power Exchange, Polyamory, and Puppies

Dan and dawn, authors of the books Living M/s and The Polyamory Toolkit lead an interactive class on how to successfully combine polyamory and power exchange! From when the commonly accepted ideals of these relationship types seem to come into conflict, to keeping power exchange healthy in the throws of new relationship energy, as well as the issues of vulnerability and security that power exchange thrives on but polyamory can challenge, we will give you actual tools you can implement to assist all your relationships.  

How Survivors Can Thrive in an M/s Relationship

Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years and Great Lakes region Master & slave (2010), leaders of the House Metta power exchange tribe and authors of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships, will discuss their experience of recovering from a traumatic past within the dynamics of a power exchange relationship. They will share how power exchange or activities that require you to be vulnerable can create an environment that allows for triggers, and what you can do to lessen the effect of such occurrences. Dan and dawn will not only share their experiences with these challenging moments but provide tips on how we can heal from them within an M/s dynamic.
* For the creation of safe space, war stories (details of traumatic events) will not be shared during this workshop.

Master Scott, slave lyon, and slave reba

When Two Become Three

This class will explore the process, successes, bumps and bruises we have learned in the past year going from a long term Master and slave duo to a power exchange family of three.  Some of the points we will discuss include how does the original dynamic change when another joins the house? What have we learned that we wish we knew going in? Tips for negotiation, rituals and protocols to strengthen the team, when to be a buttinski and when to butt out, PE with and without sexual intimacy/romance (is it poly? Is it monogamy? Monogamish?), practicing effective communication, and much more. 

Master Scott and slave lyon

Who is Driving Here??? Control, Power Struggles and Other Sneaky Speed Bumps in Your M/s

In this class we will explore some of the common concerns and sneak-attack issues that can pop up inside of your dynamic. The discussion will include topics such as maintaining the dynamic in times of stress and conflict, unconscious power struggles, trust, passive aggressive behaviors, lack of consistency, behaviors vs. language and other things that slowly work to eat away at your M/s dynamic. This class will probably appeal most to those already involved in a dynamic and have some experience, although also to anyone who does way too much thinking about this topic. Ha!

A Four-person Panel Discussion with Master Scott, slave lyon, DaddyKenyon, and SwitchyButch

Part Time vs. Full Time Power Exchange

Power exchange relationships come in many forms and flavors, including existing on a spectrum between Part Time dynamics and 24/7 TPE relationships. No way is inherently better than the other, they are simply different, with the key being that the arrangement make the most sense for the needs and wants of the parties involved. Join us for a panel based discussion wherein we will share with you the particulars, similarities and differences between two couples, one living in a part time dynamic and one in a full time one. Let us share with you the whys, benefits and challenges of what we do to compare and contrast two long term and devoted relationships.


SwitchyButch

Using Journaling as a Means of Goal Setting, Knowing Oneself (and Each Other), and Conflict Resolution

Journaling is much more than pen-and-ink, stream-of-consciousness writing! Want to learn how to set goals (achievable goals, not lofty, unattainable fantasy goals!), and learn more about who you are as a person and as an individual in power exchange, with a bonus side helping of conflict resolution skills?! Journaling can be a very effective tool for all of these, and we will discuss how these factor into power exchange (Hint: they play big roles!)


DaddyKenyon

Noblesse Oblige

Do we D-types have responsibility to improve the lives of our s-types? Do we have responsibilities to serve our communities? How does our dominance play into the way we move through the world? How do we prevent our roles from bleeding over into our interactions with other s-types, d-types, and, you know, people? This is a moderated discussion for D-types, led by questions and guidance from Daddy Kenyon about the way that leadership can change us, and how to ensure that these changes remain healthy.

Mistress Elliot, Anders, and Hagen

Just Say No!-To Crazy!

Join Mistress Elliot, Hagen and Anders for this powerful lesson on how to spot the bad apples and make looking for partners in the scene an enjoyable adventure and not the scary foray into the unknown it can be. Newbies and vets will learn to recognize the “red flags” we often ignore and how to avoid and stop unwanted attention from the start. This class will teach you how to be safe, find your confidence to say NO and utilize skills that work for finding the partner who’s just right for you while avoiding the one who’s not. Always a popular presentation, this talk could save your life.

The Strong Submissive Man – Strength in Service

Too often, submissive men are judged as self-loathing, passive or weak. Forget the stereotype and join Anders and Hagen as they tackle the myths while modeling the strength and dignity male submission can be. Learn to bravely explore your (sexy) submissive urges with confidence and pride. There is honor in service for those who are man enough to try it! Are you?

Ms. Brenda and slave arcane

Iron Fist or Velvet Glove

We have all heard bees are drawn to honey, but does sweetness satisfy the sub you have, or are looking for?   Some submissives need an authoritarian presence to keep them in line. While others thrive in a more subtle environment.   In this presentation we are going to discuss how to tailor your approach to achieve the responses you want from your submissive.  Audience participation will bring potentially new perspectives and insights, so please come prepared to engage and share your experiences.

‘Chasing the Fantasy’ – A Look at the History of Female Dominants

The history of female dominants is not well documented in terms of scholarly writings, but we can gain a glimpse of its popularity or acceptance through erotic writings and images. Join us as we discuss one view of the history of female dominants through the ages. Starting with some evidence found in the arts, and proceeding up to our current century. This presentation is based on our research for a chapter in “Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st century.”

Barak

Cigars 101 with mocha

Cock Block, Around the Clock, with a Lock
 Master Brenda & arcane

Guys grow up taking their genitals for granted. Since birth their little buddy and his cohorts are a constant companion – a source of gratifying adventures both real and imaginary, always right at hand. Yet for some guys there is something undeniably erotic about being refused access to their pleasurable pal. In this presentation we are going to discuss: How to pursue male chastity safely, what is in it for the keyholder, the pros and cons of various devices, how to maintain male chastity for as long as you choose and, maybe include games to earn rewards. Learn how to harness the power of the key, and spur on your power exchange relationship through enforced tease and denial..

Queen takes Knight Master Brenda & arcane

The pornography industry commonly depicts submissives as lacking power, but frequently in our communities we find a strong dominant personality paired with an equally strong submissive one. Join us as we explore one way of viewing such relationships and how they might function. We will be referring to the codes which knights were expected to follow, and discussing how to use these values to mold a modern day power exchange relationships. While the title may suggest strict gender roles, the concepts we explore in this presentation are not gender or role specific. Our goal is to explain an alternative way of framing a Master slave relationship which celebrates and empowers both roles.

Intimacy & Vulnerability in D/s
 Graydancer & naiia

“Show me that you love me by beating me like you hate me.” – Cherry Doll. There is a lot of focus on trust in D/s relationships, but there’s another quality that is necessary for intimacy: the discomfort and risk of vulnerability for both sides of the power exchange. Can you risk being all of yourself, even the parts that you aren’t proud of? Can you still believe your partner will love you even after they know you? Authenticity carries risk. This class explores some of the barriers to intimacy, including things we often substitute for the scary feeling of “being in the mess together”. Drawing on the work of experts on vulnerability such as Brené Brown as well as hard-learned personal experience, Graydancer leads the discussion of how to take the plunge and fully realize the potential of an intimate D/s relationship.

Slavery – Ain’t Nobody Got Time For That! Kevin & katie

Life is crushingly busy. Then you think, “It would be hot and fulfilling to be slave to another human.” Is this realistic or just a fantasy concept? This class is about perspective, time management, exhaustion and finding peace in the role of slave. Tips, new habits and altered thinking patterns that can create space for slavery in your life. katie brings 15 years of experience in a 24/7 M/s
relationship, slaving through and above children, careers, health issues and demanding schedules.

The Return Of Master Hank Master Michael and Dan

This class is a one of a kind spin off from Dan & dawn’s “‘Submission is a gift and I should be cherished as the delicate flower I am’ and other bullshit Master Hank does not tolerate” class. Join Dan, co-author of the book Living M/s – A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships and Master Michael, International Master 2014, as they return to the “Master Hank” idea; a Master who rejects the trend of ‘soft and cuddle’ power exchange and tells you why you should too. Loving your slave doesn’t mean coddling. Being a Master in Power doesn’t mean being abusive, but it also doesn’t mean that they can’t indulge and enjoy the exercise of that power. Stand up, be strong, lead with courage, and create in yourself that kind of person who belongs in the seat of power.

Ask Us The Hard Shit, Part Deux Kevin & katie, and Dan & dawn

One of the most popular and well-received classes at Power Exchange ’17 – Special Edition was when we brought together three decades of power exchange experience and challenged the audience to “ask us the hard shit”. No 101 or soft answers here; time to talk about the stuff that keeps those long-term power exchange relationships going when they have to face significant challenges like job loss, home fires, health issues, midlife crises, the death of beloved pets, and recovering from fucking things up. Take off the gloves and ask us the hard shit!

Science of BDSM Research Team: Our Latest Findings Regarding PE Relationships Ellen Lee

In this class we will present the findings from the data we collected at PXS in May, 2017- the data some of you gave us (remember that e-crossing task?)! Our work would not be possible without you, thank you! We will also discuss some of the other recent research from our lab investigating power exchange relationships and solicit your feedback regarding some new study ideas.

The Science of BDSM: What the BDSM Community Can Teach a Kinky World Ellen Lee

According to a recent study, up to 62% of people fantasize about BDSM. Unfortunately, one of the most popular sources of information on BDSM—Fifty Shades of Grey—hardly provides a good example of an ethical top, a self-aware bottom, or a healthy BDSM relationship. In this workshop, we’ll share our team’s research investigating the stereotypes of BDSM practitioners and how these findings contrast those of our work exploring the norms of consent within the community. We will discuss recent scientific findings on BDSM including the benefits and challenges for individuals in Dominant/submissive relationships and the many functions the BDSM/Leather community serves for its members. Last, we’ll present our lab’s research on the effects of scenes and extreme rituals, including altered states of consciousness, bonding, and negative mood reduction.

.Exchanging and Maintaining Power MsDDom and CreamDream

This interactive workshop ignites and encourages thought on how to exchange power and maintain power within a relationship dynamic. Create a personal plan to negotiate basic steps of exchanging power, mutual satisfaction, outline structure and balance, maintain a positive flow of exchange, prevent loss of power, and how to regain power if lost. MsDDom and CreamDream will also share how they keep communication open and power exchanging.

The Perfect Is the Enemy of the Good Daddy Kenyon

The myth of perfection has stood in the way of many good D-types. Daddy Kenyon addresses the myths and cognitive distortions related to perfection, offering some observations from her own journey. This class also gives some tools to combat the impulses toward perfectionism. Learn how to use these tools to move out of fear and into confidence. This class is aimed primarily at D-types.

Let’s Play Follow the Leader Sir Luke and His victor

We’ve all seen those videos about how it’s better to be a leader than a boss, but what are the skills needed to become that leader? In this class, we’ll discuss how to inspire willing surrender [rather than forceful defeat] and devotion [without fear of consequence]. From both the Master’s and slave’s perspective, participants will learn about what qualities make an effective leader and how to reinforce behavior so that it becomes habit.

Mindfulness: Practices and Philosophies for Deepening and Connecting in your M/s Relationship slave lyon

This class will present information as to what mindfulness is, discuss examples of mindfulness practice and its benefits, and discuss its applications and benefits for couples and relationships in general, as well as M/s and power exchange relationships in specific. If you’ve been in a PE relationship for any length of time, you know there are times where it feels like the focus isn’t there, or that things are a bit on auto-pilot and it can be frustrating to figure out how to smooth the rough edges and get things back on track. Mindfulness is one way in which to help you get over this bump, and can be applied to most any area of life, improving overall wellness. There will also be an interactive component to practice and illuminate what mindfulness entails, but no one is forced to participate unless you wish!

Self – Care for Submissives slave lyon

As the saying goes, you cannot pour from an empty cup, and no where is this more true than for those who spend their time taking care of others. If you don’t take care of yourself, there will be nothing left for anyone else. This class will explore self-care as a concept, as well as discuss practical ways submissives can implement self-care into their daily lives and impart some real tools for their own well-being to take home.

Creative Protocols for D/s Relationships Graydancer & naiia

At its essence, being in a D/s relationship is an exercise in creativity. How do you create the interactions and habits that nurture your relationship and also stimulate your dominant and submissive natures? How can you structure and utilize your environment to support the power exchange relationship? What are some strategies for when the well runs dry? Gray and Naiia will break down some common elements of protocols and then lead attendees in exercises to come up with effective methods for creating new protocols to bring partners closer and make the D/s even hotter.

The Myth of All or Nothing: Part Time Power Exchange Daddy Kenyon & SwitchyButch

Is it really “all or nothing” when it comes to power exchange? Come learn from the experiences of a couple of busy switches, who learned how to stop worrying and love part-time power exchange! Whether limited by other responsibilities such as career obligations, family, or outside relationships, or driven by the natural rhythm and needs of the partners, power exchange is beautiful when it is cherished for the time when we choose it. Come learn more about the mindful practices of “part time power” including ways that any relationship can incorporate intention, ritual, and practicality to love each moment, for an hour, a day, or a lifetime.

Do Long Distance Power Exchange Relationships really work? Master Tony Black & boy shane

Power Exchange Relationships are incredibly fulfilling. They are more intense, more volatile, more fragile, and require real intention to keep them fulfilling. As a result, they are more rewarding and YES they do work.
What do you do when the person you really click with is in another state, across the country, or on the other side of the world? Does this mean you can’t have a meaningful Power Exchange Relationship with them? …. NO. Does it take work and creativity? .YES.

Whether short term or long term, long-distance D/s can be both challenging and immensely fulfilling. Master Tony and boy shane have been successfully living a D/s dynamic for 6 years. T/they will share T/their experience living a 24/7 D/s Power Exchange Lifestyle while living 1200 miles apart. T/they will share T/their Journey, what worked, what didn’t work and how they overcame obstacles.

The Journey OUTSIDE the Box Master Tony Black & boy shane

This workshop presentation and discussion takes a joyful look at multiple relationship dynamics within a D/s and/or Leather/multifaceted Lifestyle. Regardless of your relationship identification, multiple relationship dynamics may coexist within one or more relationships. This workshop is not about role-playing a part for a fun/Hot time, its about living the joyful reality and maneuvering through the challenges of a multiple dynamic relationships. It’s about open discovery and bringing ALL of who you are into your relationship and Lifestyle.

Back to the Future, Part M/s Master Michael and slave Angie

When we “”took the plunge”” almost fourteen years ago, we had no idea what we were getting into as a Master and slave. All we knew is that this was HOT, it was something that had called to us for a long time and we were going to make it work.

Well, what if we hopped into that DeLorean and took that 88mph trip back to fourteen years ago? What would we tell ourselves at the beginning? What lessons have we learned over the years about being Master and slave? What tips and tricks would we give ourselves to make the road a bit less bumpy?

Master Michael and slave angie will share stories and lessons from their experiences as Master and slave. While their trip has sometimes felt like a ride using 1.21 gigawatts and flaming smoking tires, it has also been a dream to live each day together. Their hope is that you’ll laugh, you’ll learn, you’ll ask questions and you’ll come away with your own lessons to change YOUR future in your Power Dynamic relationship.

Accepting Service Stephan & SweetWisterias

It is simple to be engaged in some services, you have a person to person connection, a scene or play. These have a physical interaction, but what about when a service is more removed, managing a calendar, organization of a cloths. Since service is across many spectrum and gambits, Stephan and his girl will take a deep dive into how you receive service as a dominant person type. How to stay engaged and being an active participant regardless of the type of service being given. We
will share stories about the trials and tribulations of many types of service.

Event Planning (Dinner Service) Stephan & SweetWisterias

One of the most fantasized aspects of M/s relationships is formal white glove dinner service. In this class we deep dive into the traditions of formal dinner service, from meal planning, seating arrangements, plate settings, wine pairings, serving the meal. How to help set the expectations for yourself and your guests.

Serving for Dominants? MsDDom and CreamDream

Serving and being a Dominant never seems to settle well among those who believe serving is just for s-types. How does an D-type serve their s-type while maintaining power and authority? How does the s-type learn to respect service from their D-type? What about service to the lifestyle community at-large vs. intimate one-on-one relationships? We’ll define and identify a few areas in which D-types may already be serving and how s-types can appreciate the D-type’s service as an integral part of a relationship dynamic

Overcoming Mental Illness in an M/s Dynamic Sir Luke and His victor

Mental illness is the secret we hide in the closet, the hush-hush of the community. We are told, ” Don’t put your dick in crazy,” as if being ‘crazy’ is a “bad thing.” Our brothers, sisters, and siblings are isolated when diagnosed and shunned as unsafe.
As a 24/7, TPE, Master/slave couple, Sir Luke and His slave, victor, will discuss how they handled the transition from neurotypical to living with a mental illness as well as how they live with it now, every day. They will cover the darker parts of mental illness, the struggles of recovery, and the toolbox they use to maintain a healthy dynamic even in the wake of mental illness. Participate in this peer-to-peer discussion to learn new tools for you.